Optimism...a choice

I have learned many things about myself and about life.  It  has helped me to focus on how I want to raise you and what things I want you to hold close to your heart so they are a part of you. One of those things is:
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OPTIMISM

optimism [ˈɒptɪˌmɪzəm]

n

1. the tendency to expect the best and see the best in all things

2. hopefulness; confidence

3. (Philosophy) the doctrine of the ultimate triumph of good over evil

4. (Philosophy) the philosophical doctrine that this is the best of all possible worlds Compare pessimism

[from French optimisme, from Latin optimus best, superlative of bonus good]

1. the belief that good is ultimately triumphant over the evil in the world.

2. the Leibnizian doctrine that this is the best of all possible worlds.

3. the belief that goodness pervades reality. Cf. meliorism, pessimism. — optimist, n. — optimistic, adj.

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The word itself brings on many emotions.  Some react in a positive way and think, "I love to take advantage of what I can learn from others and their experiences." Others think, "I am an optimist." They think it yet struggle with recognizing the tiny miracles and Blessings they receive in daily life.  And yet others feel there is no room for optimism with all of the terrible things that are going on in life.  I want you, my children, to be inspiring optimists!

Being an optimist is a choice and it takes training your mind to think the best FIRST.  It does NOT mean avoiding things that are disturbing or refusing to deal with challenges in your life. It simply means you choose to cope in a different way.  You choose to deal with the issue and remain the happy person you are inside.  Your struggles are not YOU; they are temporary obstacles.

When you are frustrated, think of three things to smile about at that very moment. It is not easy and that in itself can prevent you from being an optimist. It will take time and training. Making a decision to think differently is a start.

Once you have distanced yourself from the issue, you may be able to deal with it better.  If not, find something that makes you smile. A picture, listen to a song, the smell of a certain perfume or holding some smooth rocks in your hands.  This may help because you don't have to think about it; it is something you can hear, touch, taste, see, or smell. We have the five sense for a reason, my loves!

I tell you this because you will be surrounded by negative people and things at different times in your life.  You can't be an optimist with all of that around you if aren't secure with what you believe and how you process things.  Many people aren't comfortable around optimists.  Some want you to be as miserable as they are.  Some want you to realize the seriousness of the situation and others just don't know how to be happy.  Even people can be temporary obstacles.

 Believe in yourself and know that God is of light and love.  I want you to influence others with that light and love.  Be sure to keep your cups full yourselves; don't give away all of your optimism. You will know that is happening when you are bitter and angry about many things,  much of the time.  You are my angels, Tre and Trinity, and I want you to shine with what God gave you to make life better for all those who choose you and your company.

The most important thing about being an optimist is knowing when you have done all you can do. Sometimes it is necessary to go on a different path.  You just can't feel good in bad situations; know when to walk away and keep your self-worth. 

I love you, my babies, and I know you will bring light and love to darkness and despair with every step you take!!  Mommy is so, so proud!!