I'm the BEST!



Respect those who believe in you and in whom you believe!

Selflessness brings  happiness!

The best at what?  What do you "do" with your "best?"

So many people are caught  up in being the BEST. From friends I see you with, to professionals in public service, to politicians, to school officials to every day folks I don't even know, their desire to be perceived as "the best" is something that oozes from their pores.  It's in the way they walk, the way they talk, the way they look at others...it is in pretty much every thing they do and say. It can make others feel inferior and inadequate. DON'T let it happen to YOU! 

The primary reason one feels compelled to be the best is because they feel what they really are is simply not good enough. In conclusion with my experiences, there are three kinds of people who are obsessed with being the best: those who come from very little, those who are new to money or stature and those who feel entitled because they come from money and or stature. The individuals who come from little are those who are poor. They want to be in a better position and strive to be the "best" to get noticed and have the opportunities to utilize resources to make a better life for themselves.  It is difficult to find beauty and peace in what you have and who you are when you are struggling. Being strong in your faith will help. Look for the good things in life to help you get through the tough times.  I believe it is always important to ask yourself, "What am I doing with my best to make things better for more people than just me?"  When you work hard to make things better, things do get better. It may take a long while, but it gets better. NEVER GIVE UP!

The individuals who are new to money or stature are those who have recently been promoted to a high position at the workplace,  married to someone who is well known and respected, or simply new to a higher standard of living. They expect the "best" because they feel all of their hard work has paid off.  It is difficult to find beauty and peace in what you have and who you are when you feel so accomplished. Being strong in your faith will help.  Remaining diligent in your work ethics will help. When you make it to the next level of your life and you meet a goal, don't stop there. Don't belittle the others who aren't there yet and don't ignore others who have so much to offer you. Open your eyes to all that is around you and filter through what you want and need. I believe it is always important to ask yourself, "What am I doing with my best to make things better for more people than just me?" When you work hard to make things better, things do get better. It may take a long while, but it gets better. NEVER GIVE UP!

The individuals who come from money and/or stature are children of people with large salaries, generations of people from a particular name or place, or simply people who have always had large amounts of money and many situations of favoritism. They claim the best because they haven't experienced anything but what they have. It is difficult to find the beauty and peace in what you have and who you are when you don't have anything to compare it to. Remember to be humble and appreciative, and when you think you have all there is, help others so that they can feel fulfilled, too. I believe it is always important to ask yourself, "What am I doing with my best to make things better for more people than just me?" When you work to make things better, things do get better. It may take a long while, but it gets better. NEVER GIVE UP!

THINGS don't make you the best, IDEAS don't make you the best, and even INTELLIGENCE doesn't make you the best. When you continually apply your things, ideas and intelligence to others' and make life even better for everyone, when you work toward a goal that is bigger than yourself, that is what's best!


I love you, my children! Mommy is so, so proud!

Optimism...a choice

I have learned many things about myself and about life.  It  has helped me to focus on how I want to raise you and what things I want you to hold close to your heart so they are a part of you. One of those things is:
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OPTIMISM

optimism [ˈɒptɪˌmɪzəm]

n

1. the tendency to expect the best and see the best in all things

2. hopefulness; confidence

3. (Philosophy) the doctrine of the ultimate triumph of good over evil

4. (Philosophy) the philosophical doctrine that this is the best of all possible worlds Compare pessimism

[from French optimisme, from Latin optimus best, superlative of bonus good]

1. the belief that good is ultimately triumphant over the evil in the world.

2. the Leibnizian doctrine that this is the best of all possible worlds.

3. the belief that goodness pervades reality. Cf. meliorism, pessimism. — optimist, n. — optimistic, adj.

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The word itself brings on many emotions.  Some react in a positive way and think, "I love to take advantage of what I can learn from others and their experiences." Others think, "I am an optimist." They think it yet struggle with recognizing the tiny miracles and Blessings they receive in daily life.  And yet others feel there is no room for optimism with all of the terrible things that are going on in life.  I want you, my children, to be inspiring optimists!

Being an optimist is a choice and it takes training your mind to think the best FIRST.  It does NOT mean avoiding things that are disturbing or refusing to deal with challenges in your life. It simply means you choose to cope in a different way.  You choose to deal with the issue and remain the happy person you are inside.  Your struggles are not YOU; they are temporary obstacles.

When you are frustrated, think of three things to smile about at that very moment. It is not easy and that in itself can prevent you from being an optimist. It will take time and training. Making a decision to think differently is a start.

Once you have distanced yourself from the issue, you may be able to deal with it better.  If not, find something that makes you smile. A picture, listen to a song, the smell of a certain perfume or holding some smooth rocks in your hands.  This may help because you don't have to think about it; it is something you can hear, touch, taste, see, or smell. We have the five sense for a reason, my loves!

I tell you this because you will be surrounded by negative people and things at different times in your life.  You can't be an optimist with all of that around you if aren't secure with what you believe and how you process things.  Many people aren't comfortable around optimists.  Some want you to be as miserable as they are.  Some want you to realize the seriousness of the situation and others just don't know how to be happy.  Even people can be temporary obstacles.

 Believe in yourself and know that God is of light and love.  I want you to influence others with that light and love.  Be sure to keep your cups full yourselves; don't give away all of your optimism. You will know that is happening when you are bitter and angry about many things,  much of the time.  You are my angels, Tre and Trinity, and I want you to shine with what God gave you to make life better for all those who choose you and your company.

The most important thing about being an optimist is knowing when you have done all you can do. Sometimes it is necessary to go on a different path.  You just can't feel good in bad situations; know when to walk away and keep your self-worth. 

I love you, my babies, and I know you will bring light and love to darkness and despair with every step you take!!  Mommy is so, so proud!!

2010 brings in a year and new attitudes!

 Germany for us, my children, has strengthened us in many ways.  Daddy's trip for a year and living in an apartment has made our family more aware of how we are blessed. We have extended our Military Family. You both have started very important aspects of your lives and I am so proud of the progress you are making! 

I have noticed that people are changing, my children.  You have to stand firm in what you believe because people are going through things and don't seem to know what their soul is about. If you're not careful, you, too, can get lost in their confusion.  Christmas was a wonderful time with daddy having come home and the special moments we shared. LOTS of people showed their love and it is a great thing! Because we are believers in Christ, we have to hold dear to OUR traditions and not let anyone else get in the way of that. Many people with good intentions make you think twice about what you do and who you are. Remember to THINK about what they say and determine what is best for you according to what YOU THINK is best for you. Even those who love you will be critical. 

What I want you to know...

•  LOVE yourself most!

 Take care of your body, your soul and your mind. Wash well, eat great foods of many varieties and from many cultures, sleep long and read often! Remember to put your Bible by your bed and read it as if it is a letter from God to you; it is!

•  RESPECT your body for the beautiful machine it is!

Don't let others dictate what you will do with your body. Love it and cherish it. It is God's gift to you; make sure you take good care of it on the inside and outside.  NEVER let another human being do anything to your body that doesn't come with respect for you and for God!

•  THINK about things before you do them!

 Try to stay away from things that require an immediate response.  If you can, sleep over a major decision and make the final choice when you are calm and comfortable with what you decided. Ask yourself what are the long and short term consequences and benefits of your choices. How is this going to impact yourself and others?

• Have PURPOSE behind  your actions!

 If you are going to do something, make sure there is a valid reason for it. Don't do it because you are restless; do it because...

• Remember the INTENTION behind everything you do!

Every time you have your finger pointed at someone else, you have three aiming back at yourself.  If you mean well, it will succeed. If you have hatred or malicious intent in your heart when you do it, it's not of light and will not help others see what you are trying to do. It will cause darkness and close out hearts to your good will.

With these things in mind, life will be powerful and exciting! This new year is waiting to begin...and begin with you!

I love you, my children! Mommy is so, so proud!